heres the pri log
   -- Accepting call from '6138286056' to '6261' on channel 0/22, span 1
localhost*CLI> 
> [ 02 01 a2 d0 08 02 80 4b 07 18 03 a9 83 96 ]
localhost*CLI> 
> Informational frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> N(S): 081   0: 0
> N(R): 104   P: 0
> 10 bytes of data
T_200 timer already going (2)
> Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=10
> Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 32843/0x804B) (Terminator)
> Message type: CONNECT (7)
> [18 03 a9 83 96]
> Channel ID (len= 5) [ Ext: 1  IntID: Implicit, PRI Spare: 0, Exclusive Dchan: 0
>                        ChanSel: Reserved
>                       Ext: 1  Coding: 0   Number Specified   Channel Type: 3
>                       Ext: 1  Channel: 22 ]
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a2 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 081 P/F: 0
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 79 to (but not including) 81
-- ACKing packet 80, new txqueue is 81 (-1 means empty)
-- Something left to transmit (81), restarting T200 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 00 01 d0 a2 08 02 00 4b 7d 08 02 80 e5 14 01 01 ]

< Informational frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< N(S): 104   0: 0
< N(R): 081   P: 0
< 12 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 80 to (but not including) 81
-- Something left to transmit (81), restarting T200 counter
< Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=12
< Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 75/0x4B) (Originator)
< Message type: STATUS (125)
< [08 02 80 e5]
< Cause (len= 4) [ Ext: 1  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) 0: 0   Location: User (0)
<                  Ext: 1  Cause: Message not compatible with call state (101), class = Protocol Error (6) ]
< [14 01 01]
< Call State (len= 3) [ Ext: 0  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) Call state: Call Initiated (1)
Sending Receiver Ready (105)

> [ 00 01 01 d2 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 105 P/F: 0
> 0 bytes of data
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a4 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 082 P/F: 0
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 80 to (but not including) 82
-- ACKing packet 81, new txqueue is -1 (-1 means empty)
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 00 01 d2 a4 08 02 00 4b 7d 08 02 80 e5 14 01 01 ]

< Informational frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< N(S): 105   0: 0
< N(R): 082   P: 0
< 12 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 81 to (but not including) 82
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
< Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=12
< Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 75/0x4B) (Originator)
< Message type: STATUS (125)
< [08 02 80 e5]
< Cause (len= 4) [ Ext: 1  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) 0: 0   Location: User (0)
<                  Ext: 1  Cause: Message not compatible with call state (101), class = Protocol Error (6) ]
< [14 01 01]
< Call State (len= 3) [ Ext: 0  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) Call state: Call Initiated (1)
Sending Receiver Ready (106)

> [ 00 01 01 d4 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 106 P/F: 0
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 00 01 d4 a4 08 02 00 4b 05 04 03 80 90 a2 18 03 a9 83 96 6c 0c 21 80 36 31 33 38 32 38 36 30 35 36 70 05 81 36 32 36 31 ]

< Informational frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< N(S): 106   0: 0
< N(R): 082   P: 0
< 36 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 81 to (but not including) 82
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
< Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=36
< Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 75/0x4B) (Originator)
< Message type: SETUP (5)
< [04 03 80 90 a2]
< Bearer Capability (len= 5) [ Ext: 1  Q.931 Std: 0  Info transfer capability: Speech (0)
<                              Ext: 1  Trans mode/rate: 64kbps, circuit-mode (16)
<                              Ext: 1  User information layer 1: u-Law (34)
< [18 03 a9 83 96]
< Channel ID (len= 5) [ Ext: 1  IntID: Implicit, PRI Spare: 0, Exclusive Dchan: 0
<                        ChanSel: Reserved
<                       Ext: 1  Coding: 0   Number Specified   Channel Type: 3
<                       Ext: 1  Channel: 22 ]
< [6c 0c 21 80 36 31 33 38 32 38 36 30 35 36]
< Calling Number (len=14) [ Ext: 0  TON: National Number (2)  NPI: ISDN/Telephony Numbering Plan (E.164/E.163) (1)
<                           Presentation: Presentation permitted, user number not screened (0) '6138286056' ]
< [70 05 81 36 32 36 31]
< Called Number (len= 7) [ Ext: 1  TON: Unknown Number Type (0)  NPI: ISDN/Telephony Numbering Plan (E.164/E.163) (1) '6261' ]
Sending Receiver Ready (107)

> [ 00 01 01 d6 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 107 P/F: 0
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
-- Restarting T203 counter
T203 counter expired, sending RR and scheduling T203 again
Sending Receiver Ready (107)

> [ 02 01 01 d7 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 107 P/F: 1
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a5 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 082 P/F: 1
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 81 to (but not including) 82
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Got RR response to our frame
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 00 01 d6 a4 08 02 00 4b 4d 08 02 80 9f ]

< Informational frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< N(S): 107   0: 0
< N(R): 082   P: 0
< 9 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 81 to (but not including) 82
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
< Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=9
< Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 75/0x4B) (Originator)
< Message type: RELEASE (77)
< [08 02 80 9f]
< Cause (len= 4) [ Ext: 1  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) 0: 0   Location: User (0)
<                  Ext: 1  Cause: Normal, unspecified (31), class = Normal Event (1) ]
Sending Receiver Ready (108)

> [ 00 01 01 d8 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 0 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 108 P/F: 0
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
-- Restarting T203 counter
    -- Channel 0/22, span 1 got hangup
localhost*CLI> 
> [ 02 01 a4 d8 08 02 80 4b 5a 08 02 81 90 ]

> Informational frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> N(S): 082   0: 0
> N(R): 108   P: 0
> 9 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
Stopping T_203 timer
Starting T_200 timer
> Protocol Discriminator: Q.931 (8)  len=9
> Call Ref: len= 2 (reference 32843/0x804B) (Terminator)
> Message type: RELEASE COMPLETE (90)
> [08 02 81 90]
> Cause (len= 4) [ Ext: 1  Coding: CCITT (ITU) standard (0) 0: 0   Location: Private network serving the local user (1)
>                  Ext: 1  Cause: Normal Clearing (16), class = Normal Event (1) ]
    -- Hungup 'Zap/22-1'
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a6 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 083 P/F: 0
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 81 to (but not including) 83
-- ACKing packet 82, new txqueue is -1 (-1 means empty)
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Restarting T203 counter
T203 counter expired, sending RR and scheduling T203 again
Sending Receiver Ready (108)

> [ 02 01 01 d9 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 108 P/F: 1
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a7 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 083 P/F: 1
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 82 to (but not including) 83
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Got RR response to our frame
-- Restarting T203 counter
T203 counter expired, sending RR and scheduling T203 again
Sending Receiver Ready (108)

> [ 02 01 01 d9 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 108 P/F: 1
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a7 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 083 P/F: 1
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 82 to (but not including) 83
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Got RR response to our frame
-- Restarting T203 counter
T203 counter expired, sending RR and scheduling T203 again
Sending Receiver Ready (108)

> [ 02 01 01 d9 ]

> Supervisory frame:
> SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
>  TEI: 000        EA: 1
> Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
> N(R): 108 P/F: 1
> 0 bytes of data
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 
< [ 02 01 01 a7 ]

< Supervisory frame:
< SAPI: 00  C/R: 1 EA: 0
<  TEI: 000        EA: 1
< Zero: 0     S: 0 01: 1  [ RR (receive ready) ]
< N(R): 083 P/F: 1
< 0 bytes of data
-- ACKing all packets from 82 to (but not including) 83
-- Since there was nothing left, stopping T200 counter
-- Stopping T203 counter since we got an ACK
-- Nothing left, starting T203 counter
-- Got RR response to our frame
-- Restarting T203 counter
localhost*CLI> 

when i dial in this works, connects me to the sip server and i get audio 
    -- Executing Dial("Zap/18-1", "SIP/siptest|20") in new stack
    -- Accepting call from '613(removed)' to '6260' on channel 0/18, span 1
    -- Called siptest
    -- SIP/siptest-4950 is ringing
    -- SIP/siptest-4950 answered Zap/18-1
    -- Channel 0/18, span 1 got hangup
  == Spawn extension (sip, 6260, 1) exited non-zero on 'Zap/18-1'
    -- Hungup 'Zap/18-1'

i just changed to this
exten => 6261,1,Answer()
exten => 6261,2,Wait(30)
exten => 6261,3,Background(ivrmenu)
exten => 6261,4,Wait(30)

and now i get
   -- Executing Answer("Zap/19-1", "") in new stack
    -- Accepting call from '6138286056' to '6261' on channel 0/19, span 1
    -- Executing Wait("Zap/19-1", "30") in new stack
    -- Channel 0/19, span 1 got hangup
  == Spawn extension (sip, 6261, 2) exited non-zero on 'Zap/19-1'
    -- Hungup 'Zap/19-1'


so its just hanging up after so many seconds has nothing to do with the play