SELECT user.*, count(t1.*) AS adet
FROM user JOIN (SELECT user_id
FROM user_pref 
WHERE (ask_id=1 and (ansver_id=5  or ansver_id=30))
OR (ask_id=2 and (ansver_id=2 or ansver_id=5))
OR (ask_id=11 and (ansver_id=41  or ansver_id=45))) AS t1
ON user.user_id=t1.user_id
GROUP BY user.user_id
ORDER BY adet
LIMIT 10;